TWENTY YEARS LATE TO THE PARTY SCREAMING IN HEELYS

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
shadowknight1224
acutelesbian

A lot of people ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me most. And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals, but how do I tell them that when I was 17 I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover’s once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction in your busy life.
Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

fat-thin-skinny

this fucks me up every single time

acutelesbian

I never expected this to be my most popular poem out of the hundreds I’ve written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and I left out the most beautiful part of that class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded and they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they chose to walk away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

fr3ight-train

This is so fucking important and I think it’s something I needed right now

thegreenpea

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queenitsy
raisesomehale

if it makes someone “racist” if they don’t like Scott does it also make someone “homophobic” if they don’t like Sterek?

queenitsy

Oh man. The short answer is no. The long answer is in two parts, one of which is essay-length, but:

1) Stiles and Derek are not a couple in canon so not being interested in them is not actually erasing representation in a way that would be homophobic. My absolute no-TP is Stiles/Lydia. Does that mean I am heterophobic? (No, because that’s not a thing, but also -) No, because that is an opinion about a potential couple on a TV show, and not a political statement. (Were the characters actually out and actually a couple, this conversation would be more complicated, but Stiles/Derek is a 100% fan-created pairing. There is nothing wrong with that! But it means that opinions on Sterek don’t have much to do with actual representation.)

2) I am limited by what I’ve seen, and I stick to a pretty small corner of fandom, but generally speaking, when Scott fans are talking about racism? They ARE NOT saying that if you don’t like Scott, you’re racist. Because that is not necessarily true. People like, connect with, and enjoy very different characters! Scott does not do it for some people! That is fine!

When race comes up, it is within the context of a wider discussion about characters on the show. That discussion involves people deliberately looking for fault within Scott’s character – faults they would not find with other characters. (For example, the recent Scott-saves-puppies debacle.) Or it involves mischaracterizing Scott (“Scott is stupid,” “Scott is a bad friend,” “Scott only cares about lacrosse and Allison,” etc). Or it involves taking Scott’s character traits (usually empathy) and assigning them to an entirely different character (usually Stiles). 

The thing is, we live in a racist society, and we are all taught by the media that the stories of people of color are less important and that people of color are not worth empathizing with or caring about to the same extent as white people. POC’s stories are often erased (see pretty much any discussion about hollywood whitewashing) and POC characters are often reduced to stereotypes (see the overwhelming majority of POC roles in anything ever). 

So when people talk about Scott and race, they aren’t saying it’s racist not to love him. They’re saying it’s racist to deliberately search out faults within him to justify focusing on other, white characters. They’re saying it’s racist to erase Scott from his own story – to overlook him, the actual protagonist, to instead focus on other, white characters. They aren’t saying “You, who doesn’t care for Scott McCall, are a racist,” they’re saying, “That thing you are doing falls into a pattern of racism in this culture.” (Please watch that video.)

So no, calling out racism with regard to people’s treatment of a POC character is not even remotely the same as suggesting it’s homophobic not to like a non-canon slash pairing.

on fandom :/
brydeswhale
arsanatomica

We’re only finding out recently that a lot of animals have colors and patterns that we cannot see because they’re outside of our visual range. It calls to attention how much of the world we can’t experience because our senses are limited.

When we shine UV lights on them, they glow pink or blue, but these are the colors that we CAN see…. they could be a bunch of different colors, which we SEE as all pink.

It’s also interesting to consider that most of these animals are not aware of having glowing patches on their bodies…. isn’t it also possible that we have skin or hair patterns that were not aware of?
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(There is actually some research out there to support the idea that our own skin fluoresces as well and that there are gender differences in the pattern and glow.)

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marlynnofmany

Humans do have invisible stripes!  They’re called Blaschko’s Lines, formed as  skin cells divide at the embryonic stage.  Normally we can’t see them at all, though certain skin conditions follow those same lines. 

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Apparently this is roughly what we’d look like, if our eyes could see in a different spectrum:

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Dunno about you, but I want to use this in a story someday.  Aliens can see our stripes and we can’t!  Magical transformations follow Blaschko’s Lines!  A subtle sign of lycanthropy is darker hair there!  Wizards are bald with that cool spiral on their heads!

Speculative fiction is so much more fun when you can speculate about something strange but true. 

theriu

THIS??? IS THE COOLEST???? SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERY EVER??????????? AAAAAAAA THAT IS FLIPPING AWESOME!!!!!

brydeswhale

Imagine being a mouse just wandering around and then these silent glowing wings just fucking body you.